Find Freedom and Inner Peace With Forgiveness


Guest article by Cheri Valentine – Is there someone in your life who has hurt you? Is it time for you to let go of the hurt and what is is doing to you?

Almost everyone has been hurt by the words or actions of someone else whether in the past or currently. It can leave you feeling heavy, a victim, shamed or even guilty.  We often persecute ourselves over and over again when someone has wronged us by reliving it in our thoughts, telling others about it, holding onto the hurt and pain.

So the secret to your own personal freedom is forgiveness.

Forgiveness does not excuse what the other person did. It does say that what they did is okay or acceptable. You don’t forgive to free the other person. You forgive to free yourself from pain caused by holding anger, resentment, disappointment, sadness and hurt. Forgiveness offers you health, happiness and inner peace. You want to forgive, not to let someone else off the hook, but to give yourself peace.  Forgiveness is your gift to yourself.

Sometimes the person you most need to forgive is yourself. This can be far more difficult to do. I have discovered that often underlying our sense of value, is a critical voice directed inward. So many of my clients have been struggling in some area because of a perception that they don’t deserve what they want or have. Underlying this is a deep loathing or blame that they have let others down or failed at something.

It is usually for something that was never their responsibility in the first place, nor realistic that they could do this. In my personal and professional experience, I have found that self-forgiveness is the most difficult forgiveness of all and also the most rewarding.

Whether you need to forgive someone else or yourself, please set some time aside and choose one of the following suggestions to begin your journey through forgiveness into freedom and inner peace.

1. Tapping (EFT)

Tapping (EFT) is a powerful technique used by doctors, psychologists, therapists, chiropractors, hypnotherapists, life coaches, and healing professionals worldwide. It is fast and the results are often dramatic and long lasting. In fact, it often works when nothing else will. It can be very effective  on a variety of issues from stress, pain, overwhelm, procrastination, phobias, and low self worth.

Tapping (EFT) balances the energy system with gentle tapping on the face and body, which stimulates designated meridian endpoints to increase the flow of energy in your body. It is a gentle tapping technique that disperses the negative energy in your body as a result of physical and emotional trauma and experiences.

In this video, I lead you through a tapping sequence for forgiveness.

2. Soul Letter

Writing a letter of forgiveness is a great place to start. In the book, “Get Unstuck” by John Seeley, there is template for a soul letter.  I have written several and so have many of my clients. Writing and burning them has freed them on so many levels. Their lives, happiness and health expanded when they were able to release the emotional turmoil they were storing with anger, resentment and disappointment. It became easier to focus their vision and goals.

These letters are not written to be given to anyone, they are for your eyes only, to release and let go of your inner turmoil and pain. You are guided with prompts arranged in specific order to take you from a very low vibration of energy to the highest vibration – that of love.

Once you have completed the letter, find a quiet space and read the letter out loud with the intention of letting go and releasing all the energy you may be holding. Read the letter over and over until there is no emotion left. I like to add the benefits of tapping on the EFT points as I am reading the letter. After you finish reading the letter out loud, burn it, signifying letting go and completion.

3. Ho’oponopono

Ho’oponopono  (ho-o-pono-pono) is based on an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness.  Although the practice as I will share with you is a modern version, its roots lie in the belief that all past debts must be forgiven and released.

By practicing Ho’oponopono you are clearing and cleaning the energy of programming at the karmic, generational and unconscious levels. You are connecting to the God, Source, Divine, Higher Power or Self of your beliefs.  It is a very powerful practice of forgiveness.

When I started to practice ho’oponopono when I was feeling anger or guilt towards someone, I experienced more peace, and noticed relationships improving.

You practice ho’oponopono by calling to a mind a person or event that causes you distress or brings up negative emotions for you. Then you repeat the following phrases:  I’m sorry.  Please forgive me.  Thank you.  I love you. You repeat these 4 sentences over and over until you feel peace, calm or a shift in your energy and emotional state. I like to also add tapping through the EFT points as you repeat the phrases.

I have done this while driving, walking, sitting at my desk, and lying in bed.  Whenever I feel the need, I will say these words over and over again, until I feel peace or an energetic shift.  I am always amazed at how my interactions and relationships shift dramatically and also my own energy and health improve.

4. Practice Gratitude

This is probably not the first time you have heard this, yet is bears repetition. Gratitude raises your frequency and brings more into your life. Focusing on what is good in your life will replace the inner turmoil you release through forgiveness with a higher vibration of acceptance and love.

Begin and end each day with writing, thinking, or saying out loud a minimum of 3 things for which you offer thanks. You may even surprise yourself by how much good surrounds you. If you want a bit of help getting started with this, this free 5 minute meditation will get you humming along in gratitude. There are 2 other meditations that come with this, too!

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If you are struggling with forgiving someone else or yourself, please set the intention right now to set yourself free. You deserve that and so do the people you love.

Shamanic Healer, EFT Specialist, Spiritual and Intuitive guide, Cheri Valentine offers healing, coaching and mentoring, services to help entrepreneurs and leaders amplify their innate wisdom and creativity in their personal and professional lives. She teaches you how to create your own recipe for success in your life, health, business, and relationships.

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