Embracing Trust: From Personal Lives To The Wild World Out There

Ah, trust!

The magical elixir that keeps our lives flowing smoothly like a well-oiled machine. Trust is like that reliable friend who always has your back, except it extends to everything from your relationships to the government (yes, even them). So, buckle up and get ready to embark on a journey of trust-building, where we sprinkle in some humor and sprinkle out those shady characters. We are all living and sharing  this collective movie together, and we do love some entertainment.

Picture this: you meet someone new and they claim to be the next superhero. Now, unless they can fly and shoot laser beams from their eyes, it’s probably wise to take their words with a pinch of salt. Trust, my friends, is a delicate balance of integrity, honesty, reliability, and a good ol’ pinch of skepticism.

What does trust mean to you?

To me it’s the belief that someone or something can be relied on to do what they say they will. From the micro to the macro. Integrity is the key ingredient in the recipe of trust I have put my faith in throughout my life. Yes, I have had some big disappointments in that area, just as we all have. Some of the ingredients I add to my recipe are – honesty, reliability and keen observation. A couple shakes of skepticism to discern if they are consistently reliable. If they are, they will be the superhero/shero’s in the movie of my life. We all associate with people we don’t put our complete faith in, it’s unavoidable, right? If trust is low on the scale, I tread lightly, like the ninja I am. Okay, I’m laughing at that one. Just not the tread lightly part.

But hey, let’s not forget about the blame game!

It’s a classic, right up there with Monopoly and a broken escalator. Our lovely planet seems to be a playground for this blame game, where everyone wants power over others. Spoiler alert: it’s never a win-win situation. So, instead of playing that old tired tune, let’s hit the “Collaboration” playlist. Trust me, it’s got all the catchy tunes you need for a global dance party. If we keep falling for lies and deceit – knowing it will continue down that same path, we have no one to blame but ourselves. To my way of thinking, honesty builds confidence. Dishonesty destroys confidence and who needs that pile of shit? Rid yourself of people who continuously let you down mentally/emotionally, physically and morally. You’ve heard the quote, “Relationships are about trust. If you have to play detective, it’s time to move on.” That should go for any relationship…just sayin’.

In the realm of personal relationships and the outer world

Honesty is the secret sauce that binds us together. If you’re wondering how to gauge honesty in your loved ones, I have a simple rule: trust your gut feeling. If your gut tells you they’re being as honest as a used car salesman claiming a clunker is a luxury ride, it might be time for a reality check. Remember, trust should flow both ways, just like a lively game of catch. But if someone consistently breaks that trust, well, it’s time to send them on a one-way ticket to the “Ex-Friendsville.”

Now, let’s talk about trust in the outer world, where people often play a never-ending game of “Who Can Fool You Better?” It’s like a twisted reality show that no one signed up for. Think about the eternal battles that have played out, often centered around misunderstandings or assumptions. If you find yourself falling for the same old lies and deceit, it’s time to don your detective hat (I love detective stuff!) and weed out those trust-dodgers. Remember, trust is not a blind leap into a pit of disappointment; it’s a leap with a parachute made of observation, experience, and a dash or two of healthy skepticism.

Before we wrap up this trusty adventure, remember that trust isn’t built in a day

It’s like making a delicious stew: you need the right ingredients, some patience, and a little trial and error. So, sprinkle in some integrity, stir in some reliability, and let it simmer with time and history. And if you ever find yourself questioning whether to trust someone, just ask yourself: would I trust them to water my plants while I’m on vacation? You may be quite sure they will do some snooping – Ugg! If the answer is a resounding “heck no,” well, it’s time to reevaluate.

So, my fellow trust enthusiasts, let’s embark on a journey where honesty is the compass, reliability is the sturdy vessel, and a pinch of skepticism keeps us on our toes. Remember, trust is a powerful force that can make the world a better place, one honest step at a time. Now, go forth and trust responsibly!


  1. This is one amazing and powerful message that everyone needs to hear. Trust should be the corner stone for every relationship. it is very sad that our government and other entities have lost our trust. In so many ways I find, trusting my own truth keeps me centered. Thank you for this beautiful article. It is so powerful!

    • Debra Oakland says

      At this point in time, we need powerful messages. Trust is the cornerstone in healthy relationships. The world must find its way back to truth, honor, and integrity.

  2. Sally Coles says

    Love this one. Speaks to my heart as I always lead with honesty and fairness and quickly note who does not do the same. Some give no thought to the trust they break at the time and then don’t understand why people then behave differently towards them later on. It’s as if they didn’t get the memo. And it’s not only about those that break our trust but also those we see breaking the trust of others as that will potentially be us one day….

    • Debra Oakland says

      Thank you for your thought-full comment Sally. I agree, and sometimes it makes us seem like the bad guy for lack of tolerance, but it seems they didn’t get the ‘trust’ memo! 🙂