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When Will My Life Change?

When Will My Life Change?

This question comes up for everyone at some point. When will my life change? And why hasn’t it changed yet? I am a good person, a loyal friend, a loving parent. I work hard, I am honest, and on and on it goes. For some, year after year. Many of us think of the future as a place where our lives will look different. We will have our new car, new job, new home, a new relationship with ourselves and others. But what about now? Now is where the answers, gifts and future outcomes lay. Right Now! Not yesterday, not tomorrow. Those are only thoughts.

Life can pass right by and we miss most of the important clues, the arrows along the way that point us in the right direction. Most people think they know what will make them truly happy. But when you ask them, it is usually something outside of them. Maybe if they have more possessions, they will finally be happy. Possessions are wonderful and we are welcome to all we want, including money and supply, beautiful homes, wonderful loving relationships, joy or anything you can add to the list.

I am sure you know people who have money and many beautiful or fun possessions, but are miserable and lead very unhappy lives. On the other hand, we all know people who seem to “have it all” and are happily leading productive, exciting, fulfilled lives.

When will it happen for you?

  • Do you think you have to wait for a wonderful life?
  • Do you think it is random, that life deals you a deck of cards and you take what you were dealt?
  • Who taught you that?

There were uncountable numbers of people in your life since you entered this playground as a baby, who molded and shaped every part of you, who influenced the person you have become. Most of those people were doing the best they knew how, teaching you what they thought was right, giving you the love and nurturing they felt you needed to assist you in your growth as a fully developed adult.

We tend to teach from our perspective as we built our beliefs, behaviors, habits and knowledge of the world around us, then pass it on to others. Throw in fear, judgment, labels, blame, criticism and confusion, along with all the love, care, protection, information, peace and happiness and there is a level of confusion that grows into a large tree of positive and negative beliefs within us. This tree can have very deep roots, and it may be extremely difficult to pull up and out so we can replant new seeds.

People all over the world are teaching methods to help us have a better life. We have religion, spirituality, politics, motivational speakers, gurus, parents, teachers, friends, lovers and a long list of others that can go on for pages. Who is right, who do we believe or trust to steer our life? If you find the answer through one method or another, stick with it. Not all methods work for all people. Don’t judge what works for one and not another. There is no right answer, no wrong answer. Thinking so is only ego and labels speaking. We all find our answers in different places. Look inside yourself first, because anywhere else you look will give you pointers back to yourself. That’s where you will discover all your answers.

What if we could all love more and control less? Controlling takes an enormous amount of energy. Love requires no control. It sounds very simple to say that love is always the answer. Yet, when we successfully open the floodgates in our human selves and stay in the present moment—where all our gifts are, where love is—then we will see tangible evidence that we can direct, without limitation, the power of who we are.

Love is essentially who we are, connected to all life. Control your attention, pour love into yourself and onto everything in the world, no matter what you think you know or see. There is great power there for you. When you can do this, you can direct your life into unlimited expression.

There is a field of certainty, and when it arrives, the environment is perfect to direct your life. Knowingness grows within you, The Tree of Life can now grow tall within you, revealing the secrets of life and all that wishes to flow through you out into the world. Love is the great principle of life that animates our human forms. Love beats our hearts. Love is the Holy Grail and provides you with all the proof you need, when you take profound control of your attention and intentions.

The Will is the driving force of your feeling body. Direct it into your life purposefully, with intention. Humankind has been hypnotized into accepting so many untruths. This time on Mother Earth is a very important time for us to wake up, to discover our own divinity, to have a wonderful life. Embrace life, you are worth it and you deserve it!



  1. Love is who we all are exactly! Thank you for this powerful reminder!

  2. There is so much advice out there telling us how to change our lives. I often work with people who are frustrated with trying a bunch of ideas that worked for others but not for themselves. I agree, the best advice is to listen within, connect with love and find what works for you. Thanks Debra! xx

    • Debra Oakland says:

      I always say, go within or go without! You get it Lisa and are a living example! xx

  3. You’re right, Debra: “We all find our answers in different places.” And the answers that resonate with most people points to the same thing: we all want love and connection AND it’s always available to us.

  4. I love this powerful article, Debra. With the recent change that has occurred in my life, the following quote is very helpful.

    “Look inside yourself first, because anywhere else you look will give you pointers back to yourself. That’s where you will discover all your answers.”

    Much love to you…

    • Debra Oakland says:

      You are one courageous lady Cindy. My heart is with you and I am wrapping you in love. XOXO

  5. So beautifully written! xo

  6. Such a beautiful post!

  7. Love your NOW acronym… Naturally Occurring Wonder!!! Thank you for giving me a wonderful prompt for when I’m feeling impatient! <3