Perception or Reality?

Perception or Reality? When we are confused, angry, defiant, and feeling like life is spinning out of our ‘perceived’ control, what can we do to feel better? The heart is the place to start. A little too Pollyanna for you? Trust me it’s not. This is where your power lives and breathes. Everything in the outer world is meant to lead us back to our inner world. Sound too simple? Everything is in plain view if we care to ‘see’ beyond the illusion of what we perceive truth to be. We all live on the same planet, yet experience life differently according our thoughts, conscious choices and actions. In this way we immediately collide with the reality of our conclusions. Don’t you agree, as infinite beings, we are limiting ourselves? How our experiences unfold on the living screen of our life and how we deal with them is ultimately up to us.

Hate and fear are the great pretenders that alter our perception. Love is the true STAR of our reality. This does not mean you lay down and drown out the voice of your soul-full spirit because you choose love. It means you empower yourself to live in the outer world, sustained and maintained by and from your inner world. You have the ability to wield great power and influence in this way. I hear your questions, and will say this: “The Universe that exists inside of you is immense. Yes, I said – Universe. You are a mini Universe here to express yourself in any way you choose in this life. Free Will Baby! Anger, judgement, fear and hate do not look good on you. I am not judging, live your life any way you choose, it is your movie after all. I am suggesting that you, and the world we share, would be much better served with love, kindness, and powerful purposeful intent as your guide. In the movie of my life, this is my preference and requires much less editing.”

You want change? Then BE the change. Getting caught up in negative energy that is meant to keep us all distracted and separate, serves no-one and no-thing. Whenever and wherever you show up, do so knowing you are using your free will to raise ENERGY, not deplete it. I frequently speak about living, acting and contributing your best to life – from the inside out, versus the outside in. Instead of trying to ‘control’ life, try consciously ‘choosing’ the energy you want to express and live in. Imagine the possibilities and probabilities you will create.

Empowering Phrases:

My bridge starts and ends with LOVE. I do not get caught up in outer world chaos. My job is to maintain my inner world in a state of love. To hold the space for those who come back to love when they realize judgement, anger and hate do not support the highest and greatest good individually, or collectively. All actions I take are with purposeful intent, yet peaceful and harmonious.

My soul and I talk, walk and dance together in a state of joy that I have worked lovingly and diligently at maintaining. Living from my heart is always the place to start and end. This takes practice, but well worth the rewards. I observe, but don’t get caught up in the outer world chaos, and for me that is KEY! All actions I take are with purposeful intent, yet peaceful and harmonious.

My story is one of living in courage, living from the heart and finding the joys in life. Basically living from the inside out, which maintains my inner world beautifully! All actions I take are with purposeful intent, yet peaceful and harmonious.

Two Videos to Lift Your Spirit!

Claire Ryann Ryan and her Dad Dave Ryan are a dynamic duo. You may have seen this song as it has gone viral, but it always lifts the spirits no matter how many times you hear it! Visit Claire and the Crosbys as this adorable little girl talks about 2016 being the Greatest Year EVER! What a wonderful ‘reel life movie’ she and her family are consciously creating!

The Ultimate Anti-Stress Music

A study was done by researchers at Mindlab International in the U.K. The goal was to find out what kind of music induces the greatest state of relaxation. Participants listened to a range of songs as researchers measured their brain activity, heart rate, blood pressure and rate of breathing.

What they found is that one song  “Weightless” resulted in a 65 percent reduction in participants’ overall anxiety, and a 35 percent reduction in their usual physiological resting rates.

Created by Marconi Union, this song was designed to induce this highly relaxed state. The musicians teamed up with sound therapists to carefully arrange harmonies, rhythms and bass lines, which in turn slow the listener’s heart rate and blood pressure, while also lowering stress hormones.

It is advised against listening while driving. I invite you to experience it here:


  1. Perception is everything! Great post!

  2. I am so with you, Debra! Wonderful wisdom and then you add great music: you’ve made my morning.

  3. BE THE CHANGE! Yes! Such important words, especially for the turmoil we see in our lives. And thanks for the beautiful videos. =)

    • Debra Oakland says

      Thank you for your comment Jill. We are the change, so let’s spread the word and live by example! 🙂

  4. I agree our thoughts are powerful why not choose love and kindness? I make a practice to come back to my breath/heart center throughout the day and it has been helpful for the clients I serve and myself. Thanks for your sharings and wisdom Debra,

  5. Enjoyed your videos and insights… as always. You write with sensory details and metaphors that always connect me to your writing, Debra. xo Time for a catch-up call?

  6. So many are struggling with “the love of power” vs. “the power of love” right now… Your timing is perfect. Also, thanks for sharing “Weightless.” I’ve been doing some heart rate observation/study. I’ll check it out.

    • Debra Oakland says

      I agree Andrea and for this reason, I wrote this post. Enjoy ‘Weightless” – be prepared to chill out!

  7. Excellent article Deb! Sharing it with my tribe right now.

  8. Debra, thanks so much for sharing these awesome videos. I was recently wondering what kind of music I should listen to to help me relax in the evening. Thanks to you, I found the perfect song.

    • Debra Oakland says

      Happy to hear you found some music to relax to. On You Tube where this song it, it will lead you to many more relaxation music. 🙂

  9. You are Love!
    Love You Beautiful!

  10. Great post Debra! I so agree with this: “as infinite beings, we are limiting ourselves”! We limit ourselves because of fear and we stay small. Our outer world is just a reflection of our inner world, so a collective change starts with each of us, being the change! Thanks for the awesome videos too! 🙂

    • Debra Oakland says

      Thank you for stopping by Patricia – I always enjoy reading your ‘thought-full’ comments! 🙂