Unlocking Fluidity – Let Your Spirit Flow Like A River

A river flows freely, a seamless integration with its environment

It takes great skill and dexterity for humans to emulate this fluid dance of nature. Rather than surrendering control to glide effortlessly and meander as the flow takes us, we struggle, creating waves that may not be necessary. Oh, yes, water in a river goes through some rough territory, but flow it does. We get caught up with the intricacies and complexities of life. I understand, it’s hard not to get entangled in the daily web, unless you live under a rock. The world at large is chaotic, and getting more so, but there are valuable lessons to be learned along the way. The world is a testing ground for our resolve.

No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it’s not the same river and he’s not the same man. – Heraclitus

My husband Cody is and has always been my greatest teacher, sage and compass

Calm and respectful – he flows, unperturbed by the judgments, assumptions, or actions of others. He forges his own path, moving through life with integrity and confidence. As a critical thinker, within the core of his philosophy, (I am taking liberties here) the nature world is his dynamic classroom. Even in challenging times, Cody emanates a composed confidence that is as awe-inspiring as it is enlightening. People gravitate to him quickly because of his lovely spirit and kindness. Cody is my river of peace…

What have I learned?

I have a lot to learn!

The more I learn, the less I know.

I formulate and decipher life in my unique way.

Learning from people I love and respect is a gift I greatly value.

Allowing my mind to still helps bring my body, mind and spirit back into balance. Reflective thought unties the knots.

In a river there is a flow and seamless integration with its environment. Reminder – be flexible, adaptable and unflappable with our environment.

Life’s difficulties and challenges can be profound teachers. Experiencing setbacks, failures, and hardships can lead to personal growth, resilience, and a deeper understanding of one’s capabilities. Living in courage is key in overcoming life’s biggest challenges.

We all have access to something that has the ability to bring us back into a state of peace. It is within our grasp to tap into this source, an elixir of tranquility that bathes us in an aura of serenity, inviting us into an elusive sanctuary of peace.

Sources to tap into for inspiration

  1. Parents or Guardians
  2. Teachers and Mentors
  3. Friends and Peers
  4. Role Models
  5. Adversity and Challenges
  6. Philosophers and Authors
  7. Spiritual or Religious Leaders
  8. Personal Experiences Cultural and Historical Influences


Each individual’s journey is unique, and we may draw lessons from a combination of sources. Valuable lessons can come from various aspects of life, and being open to learning from different people and experiences can lead to personal development and a deeper understanding of the world. It’s a journey – courage required.



  1. Thank you again for such an inspirational newsletter. You never cease to amaze me at your writing ability, and that it comes from your spirit. I have to agree Cody it’s one of the most authentic persons I have ever known.

    • Debra Oakland says

      Thank you, and yes, Cody is one of a kind. I am one blessed and one very happy woman!:-)

  2. Thank you, Debra. This is an awesome and inspiring article that just came in into my box at the right time and the moment. Being a subscriber for long time and learned so much from your writings that have been a mentor in my life path. You are a Blessed and a Blessing.
    Maria A.

    • Debra Oakland says

      Thank you, Maria! As a writer, it’s very encouraging to hear from my subscribers. My greatest hope is that my articles encourage and inspire courage. Blissed Blessings to you, and thank you again for your lovely comment.

  3. Love your newsletter! There’s so much wisdom here written so beautifully! Thank you!